How I deal with stress

Hey,

If you have been reading my posts then you may of gathered that I am a person who is easily stressed. If not then hey! So I don't deal with stress all that well and I do have anxiety but I wanted to share my ways of dealing with stress.

Be organised

Whether this is within your schoolwork, your job or just every day life, if it makes you less stressed then do it. As I am in my final school year I am starting exams and my first exam may not be until next June but I know that the more I start preparing now the less I will stress later. I have drew up a revision timetable with what I am studying, what times, any other priorities I have and always some free time. This has helped me feel a lot less stress as I feel more encouraged and productive. So if you aren't studying there are other ways you can be organised whether that it writing to do lists or having a notice board: there will always be something to suit you.

Let yourself have some down time

Yes you may have your maths exam tomorrow or a job interview but you still need to have some time to just chill. Leave an hour where you can watch TV or 20 minutes where you can just sit in the garden. If you spend all your time focusing on that thing then you will be more likely to mess up. Like if I had a big exam tomorrow I wouldn't be spending my whole evening studying I would watch a film, comfort eat and dance to music. Find your thing that de-stresses you, it may be a bath, playing the piano or doing your makeup. The night before what you have been stressing about do that thing, have fun! Laugh, sing, dance, make a fool out of yourself, it will benefit you not only short term but long term as well in the short term you are happy in the long time you will come out on top.

Surround yourself with positive people

Don't spend the night before a big exam on your own worrying be with your friends and have some fun, if you still want to study then study together. It may not be that effective but it will really help you forget about your worries. Their positivity will rub of on you when you most need it so watch TV with your family, play basketball with your friends in the park, if you are having fun with people who are also having fun your stress will just float away.

Talk to someone

If you are feeling stressed then talk through why you are with someone. They can make you realise that you don't need to worry about it or they can help you deal with that problem as a problem shared is a problem halved. Talking can get your negative energy out and even if nothing has changed you will feel more positive by not having it all bundled up inside you.

Get an early night

Are you starting a new school tomorrow? Or are you performing in the town talent show tomorrow? If you are stressed about something which is happening the next day make sure you go to bed early. Sleep can have a good impact on how stressed you are and if you awake feeling refreshed you will automatically feel less stressed.

If you are worrying about something that has already happened then you will have to realise that you cant change the past. Everything has happened for a reason and regretting it wont change a mistake. You can try and fix it by apologising and showing someone it was a mistake which will make them see you are a strong person for having the courage to try and fix it. Everyone makes mistakes in life and the sooner you realise that and learn how to move on the better. There is no point stressing on the past, I know that you don't mean to but just sit yourself down and give yourself a good talking to.

Thanks for reading,

Love, Scarlett x

Being completely honest

Hey,

Earlier this week I was sitting in maths when I suddenly began getting horrible thoughts which I am not comfortable repeating. I went down to the pastoral office but there was a meeting so I had to carry on feeling like shit.

The next day I really couldn't cope. I was in IT and I kept on thinking about suicide and how nice of an option it seemed. Deep down I knew I didn't want to do it but I was so afraid I would. After that IT lesson I went straight to the pastoral office instead of going to Spanish. My pastoral manager was free so I walked up to her.

The first thing she said to me was "are you okay?" to which I simply replied with a shake of a head. I sat down and watched my fingers begin to shake. She sat next to me and I began talking. After a while I started telling her that I had been having horrible thoughts. She asked what they were and I began to cry. I CRIED! I started mumbling what they were and she was stroking my arm trying to comfort me. Then she asked me whether I have harmed myself and I refused to look at her or answer. I started crying even harder (bear in mind I hardly ever cry) and started nodding and saying I'm so stupid over and over again. She told me that its okay and she said she would have to phone my mom. All the time I sat there feeling like I was going to be sick any minute. I started mumbling about feeling stupid and worthless when she told me to look at her. I didn't look at her but I did stop talking. She sat there moving my hair to try and look at me. When I finally looked at her she said "all that comes out of you mouth are negative things. You aren't stupid you are just hurting inside and trying to express yourself. You need to believe in yourself because you are good at so many thing" to which I replied "I'm not good at anything". Then she had big long talk telling me things I'm good at and I ended up laughing.

I know it may seem hard to tell people things especially a teacher because they have to tell your parents but it feels so good getting it all out. I am not embarrassed or ashamed for how I acted, I am proud for opening up. Yes she told my parents but that's her job and I wouldn't have it any other way. Being honest is the best thing I could of done on that day as without her support I wouldn't of been alive the next day.

Find that person you can open up to and never be afraid to open up to them.

Love Scarlett x

Being small

Hey,

So I'm not sure if I have mentioned this before but I am small and when I say small I mean that I am literally 5 foot.

People love taking the mick out of me for being small like they seem to think its okay and that I don't get upset or offended by it. Sometimes they don't seem to realise that a person's a person no matter how small.

I am really self conscious about my height and its not something I can hide, I wear heals and I am still under average height. Yeah there's that quote that says:

God only lets things grow until they're perfect, some of us didn't take as long as others 

but its still hard and extremely annoying to put up with people bending down to your height to 'see what its like down there' or being asked "what's the weather like down there".  Then there are the times when you are getting something of a shelf that you can easily reach and someone will pick you up to get it. Its so frustrating! If you are small you understand where I come from and know how annoying it is to have to put up with me.

Being small does have an advantage of that you will see the world from a completely different view that most other people (and hide and seek is amazing), you not only physically see things differently but you see how people really treat people. You see how they react to people being different, that's what I like about being small, it has taught me to treat people equally, to know people for who they are and that different or not we are all human.

Thankyou for reading this post.

Scarlett x

A.K.A a chicken mcnugget

What you actually want to hear when you're sad

Hi,

For yourself

Any time I have wrote posts about 'it gets better' I have been in a good mood. Now I have returned back to being sad all the time I realised that doesn't help at all. That makes you feel worse, so I am sorry. Today I am going to be writing a post about what you actually want to hear.

It's okay to be sad. It's okay not to be okay. You are not choosing to be sad but you are and that is okay. It's okay that you don't understand why you feel that way. It's okay if you feel alone with so many people around me. It's okay for your heart to ache, (well I think it is anyway, this happens to me and I'm fine... ha no- but you know what I mean)

It is completely normal in this situation to want to hide away and be alone. Often you will lie about how you are. Maybe you want to say how you feel but have difficulty doing it or you don't want to hassle people. Maybe even both. People will often lie about how they feel. E.G.

"Are you okay?"

"I'm fine" no I'm not okay

To say to someone else

If someone has told you they are/ think they're depressed and you don't know how to respond then I hope this will help you.

• If you want to let them know that you are there for them. Then you can literally just say I'm here for you or you're not alone with this. (Personally I prefer the first one)
• Let them know that they're meaningful to you. By saying something like "you are important to me". When you are depressed you might feel worthless (even though you're not) so letting them know they mean something to you will make them feel less anxious that you're judging them.
• If you don't know what to say ask them if they want a hug. I know that sounds really simple but it can be really helpful. In that situation they will probably be really upset as telling someone is hard so it can make them feel less upset.
• Tell them that you are not going to leave them. Or that you can get through this together.

I hope this post was helpful. Thanx for reading,

Scarlett x

The ABC's of me

Hey there,

I'm going to be doing the ABC's of me tag

A- Age: 15
B- Biggest Fear: Spiders, Stickers and getting hit by a car.
C- Current Time: 18:47
D- Drink you last had: Water because I'm a boss
E- Easiest Person To Talk to: My friend Lauren
F- Favourite Song: Lego House by Ed Sheeran
G- Grossest Memory: Idk but the other day I went downstairs and my cat had fur pooped in the living room (when he poop's but there is loads of his fur in it) TMI sorry
H- Hometown: Birmingham (UK)
I- In love with: nobody apart from celebrities
J- Jealous Of: Lea Michele, she plays Rachel in Glee and she is goals
K- Killed Someone?: How did you know? Jks, not that I know of...
L- Longest Relationship: 1 month
M- Middle Name: its a secret
N- Number of Siblings: 2, both brothers
O- One Wish: I wish that everyone fell in love with their eyes closed and more people would see people for who they are not what they look like
P- Person who you last called: My friend Jess
Q- Question you're always asked: Is your hair naturally curly?- yes it is
R- Reason to smile: You should smile because a smile is the most beautiful thing a girl can wear and you are someone special, so smile and embrace that.
S- Song last sang: The Crumble song (Google it, you will hate me its so catchy, and amazing)
T- Time you woke up: About half 10
U- Underwear Colour: White with a lilac border and small lilac hearts
V- Vacation Destination: Skegness because we are classy
W- Worst Habit: Biting my lip
X- X-rays you've had: When I had braces they had to X-ray my teeth
Y- Your favourite food: Pizza or potato. No wait bacon
Z- Zodiac Sign: Pisces

I tag all of you reading this. Stay awesome

Scarlett x